Guest Vlog: Why are men obsessed by Anal Sex by Jeff Holiday

So if you've been following the Ask A Male blog from its inception, you know that we've been asked a lot of odd an interesting questions.  One of them was the wonderful "Why are Men obsessed with Anal Sex"? 

And as some of know, we've since started a venture in Video Blogging our questions.  So most of our future posts will be posted up on our Youtube Channel Vlog here.   If your interested in checking out some of our live questions answered by yours truly "The Male", then make sure you subscribe and add a like to my Vlog. 

As we at Ask A Male are committed to acquiring a variety of different opinions by men, about men, for women; we present to you our first guest spot on Ask a Male.  We present the amazing, witty, and fun Mr. Jeff Holiday who has consented to do a video blog about the above question we were previously posed about Why men are obsessed with Anal Sex. 

Now I'd encourage anyone interested in checking out an alternative opinion on Anal Sex, in a fun and witty sense, should check out Mr. Jeff Holiday's video here. 

Also make sure you add a like and an add to Jeff's channel because the fact is, he's hillarious in everything he does.  Thank you Jeff for taking on our challenge and making an amazing video. 

Now we can save the world. 

As with all Ask a Male blogs, make sure if you have a question that you add a comment or PM us with your questions and we'll post them on our youtube channel. 

And thank you again Jeff for making us all a little more enlightened. 

Pop that Tooshie by Lords of Acid. 

Why do men obsess over their cars?

Good evening again and welcome to another installment of the Ask A Male Blog. 

Today's question: "Why do men obsess over their cars like women do over their shoes?"

This is one of those interesting questions that a lot of guys get.  For us, Cars are a culmination of a lot of different dreams.  

We as guys grow up with the media portraying a car as an ideal, a status symbol, a symbol of sexuality, a symbol of freedom.  We grow up seeing models displayed on cars in all their wondrous glory.  We hear the roar of the engine and we see the movies of cool looking men in leather jacket riding into the breeze with the girl on their arm. 

We look at that as kids and we say "I want that!"

Media fills us with just how great it is to have a hot car because with a hot car, we get the amazingly skinny and "hawt" model who is wet and ready for us.  We even give that hot car image a name, we call it "Pussy Magnet". 

We are taught that a hot car is freedom from the hum drum mundane life that exists.  That when life gets us down, we can hop into our dream car and pop in just the right jam and drive away into the sunset to the thumping beats.

Now mind you, it's not limited to just cars.  Sometimes, some men obsess over trucks for the selfsame reason. To pile into a big rig with a big engine with a hot girl to go "muddin". 

There are even websites dedicated to the top cars you can use to get, and keep, a date with. 

For example, this.... 

The sad and unfortunate fact is that reality seldom meets with media portrayal.  There are women out there who fall for men with cars.  Why not?  Having a car means having a form of self reliance and money enough to pay for it. Having a car means you have a sense of responsibility.  However, we are still recovering from a major recession and not everyone kept a perfect job through seven years of Wall Street Crash. So guys with cars, often end up with something.... A bit more affordable. 

(I hear an Adam Sandler song on the wind...)

When reality comes crashing in, working the dead end job at Wal-Mart while living with our parents and saving every penny to try and find a cheap Quad apartment to move into and get out on our own; we tend to find our dreams a little crushed. 

Those men who are smart and fortunate enough to manage their funds better and have jobs who pay enough to have funds to manage, they tend to go for a car that lasts and will give them the best mileage.  Also, the most room. 

Not exactly the most romantic ideal but at least we know that we have our priorities in order. 

The thing is, the same marketing that tells us that men need the hot car, is also the same marketing that tells women that men are hot IN a car. 

Which leaves those of us men in a POS car feeling a bit out of the loop. 

We attempt to make modifications to our cars with the desire in mind that if we hide the fact that our ugly car is an in fact... An ugly car, that perhaps you the woman and object of our desire won't notice and give us a chance to get in your pants. 

Already you can see the flaw in the logic... We are using an object to attract another human being we view as an object with the desire to implant our sexual object into your sexual object and use you as our personal masturbation device.  How degrading!

This... Is the byproduct of what we are taught, to reduce you to the level of an object, just like our cars. 

The good news is, there are some of us who are figuring it out.  A car, isn't the status symbol we hoped it was.  It doesn't get us the promotion, the great job, the perfect house, or the hot girlfriend.  It gets us a payment every month, a rising and falling gas bill like the tides, and a dedicated repair bill that we have to keep up on if we want the thing to keep running. 

In the end, what we want, is a relationship with someone who meets our needs. And to get from point A to point B without sputtering or breaking down. 

Ladies, it is up to you if you wish to be the type of materialistic girl who chases the hot guy in a hot a car.  I can't stop you, it is after all your choice and preference.  But if you want a guy to communicate with and get to know you, you have to establish your own firm boundaries at the start.  Let them know what you need and want in a healthy and safe communication forum. Be honest... 

And if a man shows up in a "hot ride" and just wants to eye you and the back seat when you walk out.... Go back inside your home. He doesn't care about you, he just cares about what he can get out of you. 

Why do men want skinny girls?!

Good evening everyone!  It's a wet February day here and almost everyone is turning their thoughts to the upcoming Valentines day.  Almost... 

A question we received at the Ask a Male blog:

"Recently my boyfriend broke up with me to go run off with another girl behind my back.  I'm a bigger girl and she's a twig.  Why do guys want skinny (expletive)?!"

This sounded a little similar to a question we've already written about here as to why men will date plus sized women but won't seem to admit they are in a relationship with one. 

However, this question deserved a little bit different of a take. 

The honest truth is, LOTS of men like curvy women.  There are hundreds, if not thousands, of Facebook and Instagram and Tumblr feeds dedicated to the sole appreciation of the "Plus Sized Woman".  They go by different names, "Thick", "Plump", "Plus Sized", "Curvy" but they all feature roughly the same models with roughly the same idea; a girl with more to offer is gorgeous. 

So it's not that men don't like "plus sized girls", lots and lots (and LOTS) of men do.  Your question really is "Why does HE want THAT skinny girl" and the answer I think is found in the question.  He wanted her behind your back. He cheated...  

What your boyfriend did was pure and simple cheating. He started an (probably emotional but possibly sexual) affair with someone he felt he knew who was willing to offer something he felt was missing in his life.  Let me make one thing abundantly clear, there is NO excuse for a man to cheat on a woman. Conversely no excuse for anyone to cheat on anyone. It hurts people no matter the "well intentioned" reason anyone offers. 

But it sounds like this man decided that this woman had something he wanted. 

It may be that it was because she was alluring (in his mind) sexually.  It may be that she aesthetically was pleasing to what he desired. But I guarantee you, its not solely because she's thin. Nor probably because she "looks better than you". Appearances are ALWAYS judged based on personal aesthetic and experience. I know from experience that whenever I have been cheated on, I instantly want to judge the persons appearance compared to my own and always ask "Why aren't I sexy enough?"  It's not always limited to women to think this way. 

Why men cheat will have to be the subject for another blog post, but let me offer some comfort here.  It isn't because you were "big" and because she was "tiny".  It wasn't because she "looked better" or was a "better lay" than you.  It's because deep down within himself, he is missing something that he has yet to find or complete in his own emotional make up.  He's seeking that in the arms of someone else and the truth is, he can only find it within himself.  

Let him go... 

Right now, he's her problem.  I guarantee you that if he was willing to cheat on you, he's willing to cheat on her... on the next one... and so on until he finds out that what he's looking for will never be found in the arms (or vagina) of any other woman.  It has to be a cavity within his own emotional make up that he has to fill. 

So don't feel bad that someone is running off with someone you think might be "skinnier" than you. In the end, let her have him and find out what being with him is really like. If several hundred thousand Internet groups dedicated to plus size models reveals anything, its that you won't want for attention for long.