Why do men crave oral sex?

Why do men crave oral sex?

Okay, knowing full well the rampant and filthy (albeit also fun) minds of my circle of friends, I received the following question to answer on my newly minted “Ask a Male” blog.

So let me expound a little bit and simply say that I am neither a doctor nor a psychiatrist with any medical training. I am merely answering this as your average “Joe Schmuck” if he were to reveal secrets of manhood would answer this.

That having been said, many guys do crave oral sex. Some every bit as much as women do. At least most all the women I have known do. Some find receiving it to be repugnant and offensive, gross, or disgusting. It’s all a matter of how a young man was raised, his personal experiences in life, and the culture with which he was brought up in.

If he was brought up in a strict, religiously oppressive and abusive home, then he might find the mere mention of Oral Sex to be an anathema to him. If he was sexually abused by a family member, friend of the family, etc… The idea might be disgusting and destructive.

However, if he was raised where the idea wasn’t often discussed or was discussed in a positive light, then chances are that upon receiving a moderate to decent experience would cause him to want it more.

Guys might want oral sex for a myriad of reasons. However, in discussing it with other men, I can say the following are some of the top reasons in no particular order.

1. Dominance. Some men like the idea of usurping dominance on a partner and derive pleasure from having his partner perform an act that she might find demeaning.

2. A Special Connection. Believe it or not, guys are every bit as emotional as women and we have our own emotional needs deep down that need to be met. Part of this is to feel an intimate connection with our partner that could be mutually pleasurable. Often, these gents are more willing to “Share duties.”

3. Hedonistic Pleasure. Sure, when you get right down to brass tacks, being on the receiving end of Oral Sex is purely a pleasurable response that we (and by that I include me) enjoy greatly.

4. Essential Foreplay. Some men genuinely need some form of foreplay to achieve arousal. Contrary to popular believe, men are not steel hard erect creatures walking around ever ready to plunge our molten hot erections into the first thing that presents itself. If that were true; there would not be a watermelon, an apple pie, or a knot in a fence safe from us. We sometimes need stimulation to start our engine.

5. Addiction. Somewhere along the line of a man’s life, he became addicted to pleasure. Some of us just have addictive personalities. I.E. we find certain pleasures addicting, not that we addict others to us. Well… Some of us might. But we find the idea of pleasure addiction and essential and we need it and crave it merely to feel normal in our skin. Without meeting our needs, we somehow feel less than normal.

Now… This isn’t exactly a comprehensive list but it is a list that most guys will admit to. There are honestly a few hundred other reasons (or thousand variations on the above themes) that men will admit to requesting Oral Sex for.

But that doesn’t quite answer the question. Why are some men obsessed with it? The real truth is that there is a need somewhere that some men have that craves to be fulfilled.

The real catch to remember is that whatever two consenting grown adults are willing to agree together to enjoy in an intimate fashion should be enjoyed within the bounds of communication and respect. Without communication and respect it’s just flat out abuse. Made with threat of force and or coercion, it’s also called Rape. Men if you are reading this, take this into account.

I think far better an explanation of the medical needs fulfilled through Oral Sex, one should actually turn to a medical professional. Therefore, I recommend the great Doctor Ruth for a further examination of the subject. Her book Sex for Dummies indeed covers a lot of topics like Oral Sex.

Failing that… Here are a few articles I’ve read.

Mainstream ideas about Oral Sex are on the rise.

http://www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/197605.php

Better preventatives for Oral Sex. (Though I personally question the use of Plastic Wrap as a dental dam)

http://www.pamf.org/teen/sex/std/oral/

Informed choices on Oral Sex.

http://www.choicesclinic.com/oral-sex-what-you-should-know/

The real key is to read up as much as you can on what Oral Sex is, think about what it means to you and your partner, decide on protection methods, and discuss what you two wish to share.

Please make sure discussion comments are included below so everyone can see. Now let’s open up floodgates and let the comments in.

Music in my head:

Devilicious by Angelspit

http://youtu.be/JBe6F2TTsD8