This admittedly is an interesting question for me to handle. Mostly because growing up I’ve always felt that when I got a cold or flu, I should just “Suck it up Buttercup!”
That having been said, men often like to complain about ailments every bit as much as women do. Now, I’ll postulate dear writer of the interrogatory that you yourself are possibly in a committed relationship of some sort. So let me approach it from that angle.
Guys network and talk with other guys. We air our complaints with other guys about our ailments and sometimes we swap war stories about it. Usually though the camaraderie also comes with a fair amount of “Alright, suck it up now.”
So when we find ourselves in a committed relationship where our girlfriend or wife becomes our world, we find ourselves often cutting ourselves off from the groups of men we used to kvetch to. So we turn to the person we feel is our new best friend and we share our feelings, one hopes in way that will be received safely.
Now, I understand that most women view men differently. I won’t begin to bridge the idea of how women think compared to how men think, but in my experience men are supposed to be viewed as stolid and unwavering vanguards of strength and endurance. We aren’t supposed to talk about our being sick. We are just supposed to suffer through it.
Now I’ll also admit that many guys in our generation weren’t raised with the best example of stolid endurance. Some of us were largely raised by complainers and whiners. Mom, if you’re reading this, I’m not saying it’s you. I’m just simply saying that we were raised by people who kvetched about everything from Gorbechav to Reagan to Luke and Laura. So colds and flus became natural fodder to vent.
My advice to men is this. Realize that your significant other isn’t always going to communicate to you the way your bros do. Sure, she may be as comfortable to you as “One of the guys” but ultimately she communicates differently. Let her know you’re in pain, and then let it go.
Ladies.. Accept the fact that men do have feelings, we do hurt, and we do like to vent every bit as much as you do. But yes, there are times when it’s okay to tell us “enough is enough.”